38 Responses

  1. Trish January 8, 2008 / 3:13 pm

    Is it considered rude to contact the people you sub to (in a reader or via email notice) and/ or link to and ask them to reciprocate?

  2. Shalee January 8, 2008 / 3:25 pm

    Ask her how she’s feeling after the Razorbacks lost to Missouri. Oh wait. That’s probably not what you meant…

    How can you politely convince a blogger that grammar, capital letters and punctuation can help to make or break a blog?

    Not really a question, but… Please emphasize the importance of attaching an email address to comments (I’m thinking Blogger here), especially if the commenter asks questions. Personally, I like to comment and connect with bloggers, but I can’t if I don’t have a way to communicate.

  3. Lisa @ The Preacher's Wife January 8, 2008 / 3:53 pm

    Amen to Shalee’s question – no reply blogs drive me crazy. I don’t always have time to hunt down the blog to respond but I really want to be able to respond quickly to questions and connect with the girls who are commenting.

    Which leads to my question – At what point is someone considered a blog snob? Should one be offended if she comments her head off at a blog – has a reply email address – but never gets any type of response?

    Can’t wait to hear your podcast! :)

  4. citystreams January 8, 2008 / 4:31 pm

    Is it rude to link to blogs where you don’t know the owner personally? I use my blogroll sort of like a bookmarks list so that I can find my favorite blogs from different computers.

  5. Spaztard January 8, 2008 / 4:34 pm

    Actually I have two questions/points:

    I think it’s bad form to link to yourself in someone else’s comments. It smacks of traffic poaching. Do you delete those comments?

    I also think it’s bad form to correct the blog writers typos in comments. We all are in a hurry and make mistakes from time to time. If you absolutely can’t stop yourself, don’t you think a private email would be better?

  6. Coach Anne January 8, 2008 / 4:34 pm

    I’ve been getting comments which basically say nothing more than “if you link to me I’ll link to you”. As these add nothing to the conversation, I of course unpublish them. How else ought I respond: Ignore them? Write back “Thanks but no thanks”? Something else?


  7. Jeana January 8, 2008 / 4:46 pm

    Is it good manners to ask if you can publish someone’s entire post on your blog?

    Is it bad manners to ask a question that you already know the answer to, but want Shannon and Melanie to cover because OF COURSE there is only one good answer to it but apparently not everyone knows that?

  8. Darcy January 8, 2008 / 4:56 pm

    As a blogger, who has three separate blogs, one for each of the daughters, and one for myself, I’ve found my blogs being linked on peoples sites without permission. So here is my blog etiquette question:

    Is it proper etiquette to ask a blog author permission for posting a link to his/her blog???

    Thanks! :)

  9. Christine January 8, 2008 / 5:03 pm

    Looking forward to the podcast!

    My question…when is it not rude/ bad form to delete bloggers from your blogroll?

  10. Christine January 8, 2008 / 5:04 pm

    Looking forward to the podcast!

    My question…when is it not rude/ bad form to delete bloggers from your blogroll?

  11. Christine January 8, 2008 / 5:04 pm

    Is it rude/bad form to accidentally double post? Sorry!

  12. Rachel January 8, 2008 / 5:53 pm

    What sort of comments are appropriate for the “comment section” of a blog? Is it ever appropriate to use the comment space to push your own views, if they were not asked for – or even relevant to the post? What should my reaction be to a comment that appeared on my blog last night: http://racheariel.typepad.com/rachels_adventures/2007/12/come-all-ye-cur/

    I’ll admit that I was offended by what felt like an overt attempt to push a religious view on me. Is this an over-reaction on my part? Is it unfair of me to expect people not to push/share their religious views that are different from mine?

    And how, if at all, is a comment like this one different from ones that i have received that are mostly just self-advertisements? but those don’t touch a nerve the way this one did…

  13. Heidi January 8, 2008 / 5:54 pm

    I’m not 100% sure if this is etiquette, but I recently have been looking for new blogs via other people’s blogrolls and I was astounded how many blogs are now either by invitation only or totally password protected. I understand why people might want a private journal type of blog, but I found it odd that a lot of these were on people’s blogrolls.

    I guess I’m just wondering if this is a new trend, or what?

  14. Dana January 8, 2008 / 6:04 pm

    Is it okay to hack into a blog for the public-service purpose of creating PARAGRAPHS?

    Also, is it appropriate to wear shooties when meeting another blogger for the first time?

  15. Meg January 8, 2008 / 7:04 pm

    Is it impolite to ask in certain posts who your readers are…i.e., would they please identify themselves either via email or comment, so that you may know who your audience is?

    I would like to custom tailor a lot of my posts to my readership, but I only know about 20 who’ve chatted w/ me through comments or email. There are 20 more times that many people reading my blog weekly, though (“lurkers?”) who I’d love to know and know about! Is that nosey?

  16. Lora Lynn January 8, 2008 / 7:21 pm

    If I feel a comment is hurtful and the person posts it anonymously, I’m not obligated to leave it up, am I? It’s my blog, after all. Right? And if I think they’re trying to hijack the comment section, I can pull their comment, right?

    Just checking.

  17. Jessica January 8, 2008 / 8:10 pm

    If I want to link to someone’s blog should I ask them first? I personally would not mind someone linking to my blog, as long as it wasn’t to make fun or ridicule me. I, of course, would never link to a blog to ridicule someone, but to promote something they posted.

  18. Denise Walden January 8, 2008 / 8:43 pm

    My husband is fixing to teach me podcasting on my blog.. He is the computer man at the University here in town and has his own podcasting studio in his office….. I am excited.. I love your blog and will come back often…

  19. Lisa@Take90West January 8, 2008 / 9:07 pm

    I agree with Shalee, please enlighten the no reply bloggers!

    Also, do you think it’s rude to delete somone from your blogroll? That seems like a popular question but hey! People change. Time is precious and I don’t want to be feeling like I have to read blogs because I once enjoyed them. But I don’t want to be rude either! I’m thinking of doing away with the blogroll thing all together, it gives me anxiety!

    Lastly, spacing?? I space a lot on my blog. It makes it easier to read, I think, so I happily hit the return key every 3-5 sentences. But I read one blog that is one long humongous paragraph in a very small font and it is so hard to read. Is there something in the middle that is considered the standard for spacing?

  20. stacey January 8, 2008 / 9:20 pm

    i am a little nervous to post this question, but it has been on my mind.

    how do you handle it when you are a constant visitor AND commentor to someone’s site, however you NEVER hear back from them, they don’t comment at your site EVER, nor do you think they even read your site? and they certainly don’t link to you.

    which basically backs up to the other questions about when is it ok to let them go and move on.

    i forgot about this site and am glad to have rediscovered it! i will be checking the archives!!

  21. Sarah (Real Life) January 8, 2008 / 10:02 pm

    I think I recently got dumped by a popular blog designer I had retained. After giving her my information, and hearing back from her that she was starting the project, I never heard from her again, and she won’t return my email (I’ve only sent two). I thought this was very rude and unprofessional; is this common, and should I try to contact her to find out why she dropped me? I’d like to know in case I try to hire a designer in the future.

    I did redesign my blog myself, and am quite happy with it for the moment. Thanks for answering these questions.

  22. lisa (lost pezhead) January 8, 2008 / 10:33 pm

    i think these questions/comments are quite amusing! i really don’t have a question, but will be interested to hear some of the answers. i think for a lot of the issues maybe people just need to make their blog private! but i guess that might conflict with wanting to be in the whole blogging community?

  23. stacey January 8, 2008 / 11:21 pm

    another one! there are several blogs i like but rarely open from google reader because they take forever to load or completely freeze my computer. which means i usually don’t comment as i would like. is it their site or my computer? it is usually the same sites all the time and it makes me crazy!

  24. The Bargain Shopper Lady January 8, 2008 / 11:28 pm

    I ditto the copying a post and this is more everyday in my world. I love to share bargains but if someone steals a juicy bargain off my website is it proper for them to give credit?

  25. Krista January 9, 2008 / 1:46 am

    To piggyback on Rachel’s question. I left a comment of a religious nature (completely relevant to the post) not trying to be judgmental and then got completely shot down by other commenters. Not one word has been said either way yet by the blog author, but I’m feeling attacked. Is it just bad form to comment about anything religious?

  26. Marcia January 9, 2008 / 3:46 am

    WOW – I love the questions. Am also keen to hear your views.

    I usually put my blogs under my name in blogger comments because that’s what I like others to do – it is quick to click and visit them and you don’t have to go to their blogger profile first and look for the blog.

    So is this bad form?

  27. Suki January 9, 2008 / 9:18 am

    OK, are comments just for feel good, back up the blogger support or are they meant to create a dialogue? I am not talking about trolls or just bashing someone all to heck, but sometimes it feels like if you leave glowingly positive comments on some blogs, you will be ignored by the blogger time and again, but if you once leave a comment that even suggests you don’t whole-heartedly agree with or support the blogger, you will get slammed by not only the author but their “comment posse” as well. Is it truly a matter of, if you don’t like it click the red X on the top right and don’t comment? What about a blog you love to death and you just wish to bring another viewpoint to the conversation- do you still just close the page? Do you come back or are you done for good now? Thanks!

  28. Lucy January 9, 2008 / 12:41 pm

    I don’t have a blog, but am a regular commentor on several blogs. My question is whether there is some rule about the length of comments (like this one, which will be miles long). Because I don’t have a blog, I can’t direct people back to something I’ve posted. If I feel I have something to add to a discussion, it has to all go in a comment. Is it more proper to keep comments as short as possible?

    I also have a question about lurking. There are several blogs that I simply read and rarely comment on, simply because I have nothing to say. Sometimes it’s also because there are so many comments. It feels sort of empty to just say, “great post!” unless it really was a great post. What is the right thing to do?

    Lastly, I like to share good things I’ve read with my friends. Almost always, I link to the blog or site, with maybe an excerpt of the post to get my friends to actually go to the site. If it’s a blogger I really like, I want my friends to be reading him/her as well. But is it ever ok to copy a post into an email if a link to the original post is also included? Obviously, if I’ve printed a post in something (like a newsletter) I’ve asked permission, but what is the etiquette about that? I know some blogs state that written material is copyrighted, but is that true for all blogs?

    Sorry this is so long. Not being a blogger, I don’t know how some of this works. :) Thanks for taking questions!

  29. JanMary, N Ireland January 9, 2008 / 1:46 pm

    Although I now have over 100 posts on my blog, I don’t really know anything about the etiquette – ooops!

    Looking forward to learning lots on the podcast, and also will subscribe to here.


  30. Teah January 9, 2008 / 3:38 pm

    I’m fairly new to blogging, and I’m sure I’ll be back with more questions.
    For today, though – what is the proper way to respond to a comment? I try to e-mail (comments all show up in my gmail account), but if I don’t have the person’s e-mail address…what then? Leave a response in the comments?

    Oh, and if anybody is reading these comments: I discovered Google Reader, and I sang praises. However, I recently discovered igoogle.com, my personalized Google page. It has my gmail and reader in one place – blog pages pop up in little mini reader boxes. It is so much faster now to click and comment. Just in case anyone else is a Google Girl!

  31. Frank January 10, 2008 / 12:03 pm

    Regarding replying to comments: I use WordPress and it’s easier for me to reply to emails (at least as far as I know) than it is to post a comment in my blog replying to comments. Is one better form than the other?

    I normally reply to every comment I get, but sometimes feel like maybe it would be better to reply via a comment. But then again, 1) do commentors go back and read them and 2) replies with “personal” info are clearly inappropriate to add to comments.


  32. Frank January 10, 2008 / 12:03 pm

    Regarding replying to comments: I use WordPress and it’s easier for me to reply to emails (at least as far as I know) than it is to post a comment in my blog replying to comments. Is one better form than the other?

    I normally reply to every comment I get, but sometimes feel like maybe it would be better to reply via a comment. But then again, 1) do commentors go back and read them and 2) replies with “personal” info are clearly inappropriate to add to comments.


  33. Marian January 10, 2008 / 9:23 pm

    This is just a “ditto” of Lucy’s first question, about non-blogger comments. I love participating in the blogging community, but life circumstances don’t allow me to also commit to maintaining a blog of my own at this time…

  34. Maggie January 11, 2008 / 5:25 am

    I can’t wait to hear your podcast. You all do such a good job here!

    My question echo’s the many. I loved Suki’s “comment posse” and decided to go with this question.

    Is it ever good form to post saying that another “unnamed” blogger has hurt your feelings via email and then let the “comment posse” pick the “unnamed” one to pieces. Shouldn’t we be adults and deal with one another one on one?

    On the reverse of that. Should commenters not be adult in their comments and think of the “unnamed” blogger and that there could be a whole different story, before slamming said blogger?

    How far some people go to remain popular with the so called “popular” bloggers!

    And btw…this very thing has happened to me not once but three times and that is why I am now a private blogger!

  35. TNS January 11, 2008 / 10:23 am

    New at this – I apologize for the basic question.

    So, I’m supposed to make a comment to every comment that is left? I was thinking they were quick reactions to what you just read. Not that I have any comments :) – just started the blog this week. Thanks for the help.

  36. Suki January 14, 2008 / 4:40 pm

    I posted a question, but it now appears to be gone. Should I repost or was it deleted for a reason? Thanks!

  37. Heidi January 21, 2008 / 9:26 am

    Is the podcast for this already available? If so, where is it?

  38. Desiree Rutter January 23, 2008 / 5:46 pm

    How do you put blogger on auto-pilot? Meaning I would like to have the posts already cooked for a busy day! Like once a month cooking you know? Thanks so much for all of your help.

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